Wednesday, September 02, 2009

The Magic of Positive Thinking

By: Chalene Johnson
The potential of the human mind is striking.. To think that each person has the power to guide their behaviors, successes, failures, outcomes and outlooks with the unbelievable power of the mind is truly exciting. Each of us has personally witnessed both the positive and negative outcome of its might.

The Pitfalls of a Negative Mindset
On occasion, you have probably allowed yourself to slip into a pattern of negative thinking. When this happens, your mind has the power to transform a relatively minor circumstance into a monstrous, life-halting event.

Here’s a common example. Have you ever jumped to conclusions about a friend or a co-worker? Unsure of what really went down, insecure about what someone might really be thinking of you, you allowed your mind to take a detour leading you down the dangerous path of negative thinking. How quickly the mind can morph a former pal into one of the World’s most notorious villains. It is most common for people who are insecure or the victim of past hurt to engage in this pattern of thinking. By thinking the worst, they won’t be disappointed.

Those with the propensity to think negative will assume the worst as a means to safeguard themselves. If an acquaintance or co-worker seems distant or distracted, the mind of the negative thinker kicks into overdrive, “She’s really avoiding me because she’s talking about me behind my back. I really don’t care because she’s the one with the problem. I knew this was going to happen. She’s obviously a very jealous person with many issues. No one should ever trust her.”

(Hold on…I’m no psychologist, but we’re about to go deep!) This processing method allows the negative thinker to maintain a mental upper hand. A lack of confidence leads them to first believe that others don’t like them, that they are about to be “found out” or that others have identified their shortcomings. The negative thinker hides this vulnerability from him/ herself and others by casting negative aspersions into the air to create a distraction. He or she will then repeat these allegations mentally and sometimes verbally until they become their reality. The vilification of the negative thinker’s intended target then masks or replaces his/her initial feelings of insecurity about him/herself. He or she seeks validation from others constantly. “Is Lisa mad at me?”, “Deana is being immature and self centered!”, the negative thinker will state in a way that sound more like a question than a statement. Thus, mentally he/she protects him/herself from personal pain or external attack. By making statements about others in a way that corners the listener into half agreeing, he or she feels validated.

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The Law of Belief
Conversely, the positive thinker regards him or herself in a favorable light. The positive thinker worries not about what others might be thinking about them, because they feel good about what they are doing, who they are and what they stand for. Author Brian Tracy calls it the “Law of Belief”. He writes, “Your beliefs act like a set of filters that screen out information that is inconsistent with them. You do not necessarily believe what you see, but rather you see what you already believe. You reject information that contradicts what you have already decided to believe, whether or not your beliefs or your prejudices are based on fact or fantasy.”

The Power Potential of Positive Thinking
Positive thinkers assume the best of people and situations and filter out negative information, creating a positive reality. They miss the negative things that “hurt” people see, magnify and obsess over. People who enjoy success in business have filtered out self-limiting negative thoughts about their inadequacies and truly believe they can do exactly what others before them have done, and perhaps even better. People who enjoy personal peace believe that everything will work out as it should and think the best of others because they hold themselves in the highest regard.

Have you ever been thinking about someone you haven’t seen in months only to answer the phone to hear his or her voice? Ever really needed a size small and found the last one hiding at the back of the rack? Have you ever been late to go do something nice for someone and miraculously every traffic light turns green just as you approach it? If so, you have experienced the power of positive thinking.

Positive thinkers meet the right people at just the right time. They have a better life and happier existence because they have chosen to frame it precisely that way. They chose the right kind of people to invest in friendship. They never say, “I don’t have enough time,” or “We don’t have enough money.” Instead, they find a way to make it happen. They have confident children, fulfilling careers and meaningful friendships. I personally believe some people are born positive thinkers, but anyone can learn. Not positive by nature? Baby steps are what you need to take. Start with something small and focus on one thing such as, “I actually enjoy working out.” Each time you finish a workout recognize how good you feel, believe you love to exercise, focus on the endorphins that are pumping through your body after your workout. Before long, you will truly begin to enjoy something that in the past you might have viewed as a “task” or chore.

Here’s another example of changing your way of thinking. Before your next social event at which you may not know a soul, picture yourself being loved and admired by everyone you meet. Assume that all in attendance have heard great things about you. Assume in advance that people will like you exactly the way you are. Tell yourself that a “cold” or less than interested greeting is simply the other person’s nervousness or “anxiety”. Assume that people already think the world of you, so there’s no need to prove or doubt yourself. Make it your goal to put the emphasis on the other person. Make it a game, a challenge to meet as many people as possible and help to put “them” at ease. Instead of responding to the urge to “tell” others about yourself, your accomplishments, or opinions, make it your goal to listen to the people you meet. Collect the life stories of others and ask open-ended questions. Listen, digest and become a student of those you meet. As with any sport or skill, practice makes perfect. Before long, you’ll relish the opportunity to meet new people and take their walls down one brick at a time. Before long, you’ll feel a sense of happiness and confidence when entering social situations. Practice reframing your thinking and create a new reality of one that is currently negative or unhappy.

If you decide you’re in a good marriage (even if you’ve had major problems of late) and behave as though you love your mate, your positive thinking can create an about-face on your divorce bound relationship, not in one day, not in one week, maybe not even in a month’s time. But, if you change the way you feel about something or someone, you change your reality. If you truly believe people like and care about you, you will be rewarded with the truest of friendships. If you believe there are no limits to your potential, you will be blown away each day by the many things you’ve been able to accomplish about which others can only dream. Next! All of this is true, and ironically it’s accurate in the reverse too!

Your Life Around

Want to turn your life around? Then, it’s time to recognize that you hold all the cards. You don’t have bad luck, a bad marriage or a crummy job because fate dealt you a bad hand. You have most circumstances, both positive and negative because you have attracted them to you or you have decided to do nothing about it. Of course, there are things 100% out of your control, but there are many in which you need to recognize your part in attracting, or perpetuating the problem. You bring to you what you expect. Expect that it’s going to be tough to make ends meet this month and I promise that will be your reality. Decide that you’re going to do something about it and have more money this month than last and you will succeed. Period! Decide that you will make time for exercise. Decide that you love your life.

I expect the best of people. I expect that I will win and I expect that every goal on my list will be fulfilled. I know I will be happy and I know I will do right by others.

Obsess about the negative and I guarantee you’ll lead a life of drama and upheaval. A pit in the bottom of your stomach will become your regular companion. You’ll enter a room of strangers assuming their thinking negatively about you. You’ll dominate conversations or gossip about others in an effort to prove your self worth. You will believe the negative things you are saying to yourself and that is what you will project to the world. Change your mind and you can change your life…overnight.

Filter out the negative and focus exclusively on the positive and I guarantee that amazing things will happen.

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lorettaking said...

So true! Even positive people can have negative blips sometimes. Thanks for putting it out there Chalene! You can never hear enough of this great information.

*Trasy Rincan* said...

OMG GIRL!!! I LOVE YOUR BLOG.........................................POSITIVITY OMG LOVEEEEE ITTTTTTT!!!

Elise said...

Hello, you have the most fabulously wonderful site here and I had to leave this comment for you ! Your posts are beautifully written, creative and original too, and you have interesting pictures.

It's all perfect !

Thank you for sharing your site and best wishes.... 'Happy September'....

april said...

Great post. When I decided to "fix my outside", I realized that I had to "fix my inside" as well. It's something that I have struggled with, and still struggle with from time to time. (Wrote a post about this very thing on one of my blogs, actually.)

Filtering out negative thinking is so much easier said than done. Especially when you feel like life has completely dumped on you. That said, it can be done. I'm proof of it.

RoseProphecy said...

Thank you Chelene for being my daughter's friend she is a remarkable young woman who has created a miracle life of her how, in grad school and working fulltime for your company being an inspiration and example for others all of her life being her mother's Turbo Teacher which gives me much joy to have weekly as a gift of god to remind me that when we believe in ourselves and become the mirror of the world the wrold with all its illness and injury and wounds heals with the power of our compassionate eyes and wise minds as I have always beleived we can create our own destiny and become change makers of the world and nations that are oppressed under dictatorial power and now with my 9 books I have written in 1994 in one year withe the miracle within and 12 years of prophetic journey of creating rebirth on earth on the cross of igonrance and fear of differentness in the world I now see the fruit of my LifeTree not only in my precious children but also in the changing evolving world as my Global Family! My pioneering Universal Psycho-Spirituality of Health & Excellence & Global Peace & Reform of Dialogue through film & music for Peace my son has inspired & an everlasting progressive revolutionary mind body and spirit my daughter has inspired me to maintain to be a friend they can always come to and learn from even when they are at the top of their own destiny, and clients I have cured of incurable disease by just teaching them how to be who they want to be World Leaders who are raising the bar with my Leadership Excellence Standards so that we can disqualify dictators without war and violence a world that is peeling of its rotted dark handed down patterns into new pioneering way of being born again every moment & evolve to Self and Societal National Global and Universal Health and Excellence I have nothing to complain about! My daughter has always given boundariless and has always chosen the most wonderful people to surround herself with with her wisdom within and that is a gift she has by not listening to her mother but by watching her mother and father live a healthy wise path of being who they want to be and giving to the world with a larger purpose having faith that there is a core in all human beings that unites them with one another!God bless you and your family and let us work together in creating the same access and opportunity for all the women beneath the veil of injustice!

flippie said...

I have been putting off exercising & eating right because for 6 weeks now my bathroom scale says exactly the same thing, and this discouraged me in a MAJOR way. It sucks. The fact that I've dropped a pants size over the same time just doesn't cut it for me anymore! Please help!! I try to stay positive, but man, it's becoming more and more difficult every day.....

june said...

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